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Have you experienced saying something and someone questioned it leaving you to feel somehow you weren’t correct when you knew you were? If you’re continually challenged in that way it can lead to feeling insecure about what you know and don’t know. Have you ever wondered where that comes from?

My husband, Jimmy had two pairs of long johns he wore to keep his legs warmer in winter. They were his favorites and over time the elastics in the waistband wore out. My mom being a seamstress agreed to replace the elastics and we headed over to her house to drop them off. After a few days Jimmy went back to try on the one pair she mended. He came out of her sewing room to show us how the elastic fit. As he was stretching the waistband of the long johns he told mom it was too big and that she needed to take the elastic in about 4 more inches. My mom looked at him and told him to just take the long johns home and try them out for a few days first! I told mom we didn’t need to try them out…they needed to be taken in. Well that’s not what happened. The next day Jimmy was in our kitchen with these long johns on telling me they didn’t fit. I reacted! I couldn’t believe he brought them home…they needed to be made smaller so they didn’t fall down.

Here is a perfect example of how reactions manifest in our lives. Something happens outside of us causing us to react inside! It has been my practice whenever I react I take the time to look inside myself to see what’s caused the reaction. In this case I could feel I was reacting to the comment my mom made, ‘just take the long johns home and try them out for a few days first!’ My thoughts were racing all over causing me to get angry. What was going to be different in a few days of wearing the long johns? Were they going to magically fit two days later? To me, my mom had implied that Jimmy wasn’t feeling the situation correctly and somehow when he tried it out for a few days they’d fit. As I listened to my thoughts I saw what caused the unrest. This was a form of ‘conditioning’ I was subject to growing up leading me to think what I felt wasn’t right! Over time I learned to doubt and second guess whatever I was challenged on. Not in a positive way but in a doubting ‘I’m wrong’ way. When I connected to the doubt and the negative feelings that surfaced in that moment of reflection, all I could do was cry. I energetically stayed with those feelings until they disappeared and I was at peace inside. I thanked my Divine for giving me this experience because it helped me to see how innocently we’re conditioned to doubt or second guess what we feel inside.

It’s so important to recognize this example is NOT about what Jimmy or my mom did. This example is about me and how my reactions surfaced because of everyday life situations around me. I truly believe the people, things and situations in my life unfold in ways that offer me opportunities to heal and resolve unrest inside…regardless of who or what is involved.

Think about your own life now. Do you know what you’re feeling even though you can’t understand what it relates to or why? Can you trust or do you second guess yourself? There is no right or wrong answer…there is only awareness. This is one example of how things like conditioning, programming or patterning can surface in our lives. When we react and reflect on our reactions we come to learn mis-truths about ourselves. We’re presented with opportunities to challenge those mis-truths in order to find our own truth about ourselves. Then we can trust what we feel regardless if we know or don’t know.

Wherever you are on your journey, may you find what works for you…find your own truth…and you will always be guided to feel at peace inside.

Sheila Unique, Relationship Renovator, Medical Intuitive