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You’re running from this event to that meeting to that appointment. There’s no extra for you to even be with yourself. What can you do?

It is not uncommon to have so much going on in your life that you’re being pulled in all directions. You’re busy living life and that involves relating with all kinds of people around you. That busy-ness can make it hard to even find time for you. You do not need to have extra hours in your day in order for you to relate to yourself.

Relating to yourself involves being aware. You can grow to become aware of what’s going on inside, in relation to what’s happening outside of you. Inside are your thoughts, feelings and your physical body. Outside will be the people, things and situations you find yourself in.  

As you move through your day to day life you are confronted with different people, things and situations. Some of your experiences can be pleasant and some not so much. Throughout your experiences you relate with others. When relating is pleasant and enjoyable that can be a sign that things are going well for you. When relating is stressful and problematic, that may be a sign that you are experiencing some kind of struggle or unrest inside. One sure way of knowing you are struggling or that you have unrest is when you’re reacting. You will know you are reacting when you get emotionally upset in some way.

For example, let’s say you are waiting in line to pay for your groceries. The people in front of you seem to be taking so long and are having all kinds of challenges. As each person moves through, you’re finding yourself losing patience. Once it’s your turn you are upset, have a headache and aren’t very kind to the store clerk.

The Best Times For You To Reflect

If you are considering starting to relate more fully with yourself, a great place to start would be to reflect on experiences in which you find yourself getting emotionally upset. You can do this any time in your day; it can take a few minutes to look inside yourself. All you are doing is thinking back to the one or two times in your day when you were upset about something. You’re questioning yourself as to what specifically upset you? Who was involved and what was the situation? Because you are reflecting on what’s inside, it benefits you to become aware of what you were thinking about, what you were feeling and what was taking place in your physical body at that specific time of the upset.  

When you are reflecting, you think back to your experience. As you were waiting in line, what kinds of thoughts were you thinking with each person ahead of you? What were you emotionally feeling and what was going on with your physical body? Mentally you are paying attention to what you were thinking about with the people and then, both emotionally and physically, you are paying attention to what you were feeling. As you’re thinking about that experience right now, you will also feel your emotions and you may even notice different sensations in your physical body. At this point all you are paying attention to what’s going on inside of you. That is what it is to relate more fully with yourself.  

You can get to the place where you know the best times for you to reflect inside. It has been my experience that convenient times can show up in the day or night. Maybe when you’re early for an appointment and have to wait for someone. Instead of turning to your cell phone to play games or something you may consider doing some inner reflection. There may be times at bedtime when you can’t get to sleep because you have things on your mind. That can be a great space for reflection because phones and computers may be turned off and others may be sleeping. Bath time may also present opportunities to relate more fully with yourself. That can be a time when you mentally close yourself off from the rest of the world and take time just for you.

When you take time just for you, what you are doing is making an effort to relate with yourself more fully. You’re growing to become more aware of the different things people do or don’t do which cause you to get emotionally upset in some way. Inside is where your upset exists. Only when you are aware of things like that can you move towards making a change. You may want to know what’s causing you to go from feeling happy to feeling horrible. It will also be inside where you heal and resolve whatever is causing you to get upset. All of that happens inside.

When you Relatefully to yourself you not only feel different inside, you can also experience wonderful changes outside of you.